3 Body Language Habits That Give Away Your Public Speaking Nerves (And How to Fix Them)

Ever stand up to speak in front of a room and immediately wonder if everyone can tell how nervous you are?

Most of the time, they can't. At least not right away. The truth is, we are almost always more aware of our own nerves than our audience is. But there are a few body language habits that can give you away, and the good news is, once you know what they are, they're completely fixable.

Here are three of the most common ones I see, and how to fix them.

1. Your stance is working against you

When public speaking nerves kick in, most people instinctively close off their body. Arms cross. Hands cover the midsection. Shoulders round forward. It feels protective, but to your audience, it reads as uncertain or uncomfortable.

The fix is simpler than you'd think: feet shoulder-width apart, hands at your sides, body open. That's it. No special pose, no power stance. Just open.

When you stop hiding behind your own body language, something interesting happens. You start to feel more confident too. The stance signals confidence to your audience, but it also signals it back to you.

2. You're "dancing" without realizing it

This one is so common and almost nobody knows they're doing it. It's that subtle sway, the side-to-side shift, the little bounce on the heels that happens when nerves have nowhere else to go. Your brain is focused on what you're saying, but your feet have a mind of their own.

The problem isn't just that it looks nervous. It's distracting. Once an audience member notices it, it's hard to unsee, and becomes all they focus on.

The fix: plant your feet. Move slowly and with intention when you do move, but don't pace or shuffle in place.

Two tricks I use with clients to help them break the habit:

• Put pens on your toes while you practice. If they roll off, you're moving too much.

• Tape squeaky pet toys to your heels. You'll hear yourself every time.

Both may sound a little ridiculous, but they work!

3. You're avoiding eye contact

You've probably heard the old advice: look over your audience's heads, or picture them in their underwear. Please don't do either of these.

Looking over people's heads means you're not actually connecting with your audience, and they feel it. And the whole "picture them naked" thing? It's more distracting than helpful, especially if you're already nervous.

Real eye contact is one of the most powerful tools you have as a speaker. It signals that you're present, confident and in control of the room. And it actually calms your nerves because you start to see that people are with you, not against you.

The key is not to stare anyone down. A good rule of thumb: one thought or sentence per person, then move to the next. And make sure you're giving attention to the whole room, not just the friendly faces in the front row.

The bottom line

None of these tips are complicated. But they're easy to overlook, especially when nerves are running the show. The key is to practice them before you ever step in front of a room. What we do in practice shows up in presentation. Pick one, drill it until it feels natural, and then take it to the stage.

And remember, your audience is rooting for you. Most of the time, they have no idea how nervous you are. Your job is just to give them something to pay attention to, and these three things will help you do exactly that!

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